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I'm in no rush!
12.11.03 (1:50 pm)   [edit]
I'm not that prehistoric. In the last two weeks I have been asked at least 10 times by at least half a dozen people if I don't want to get married and start a family and what am I waiting on. "You don't want to be an old maid, do you?" Good grief! Leave me alone. Why do people feel the need to tell me I need to breed? Lately, I've been dreading going to family events for this single reason (pun intended).

I'm flattered that they care and think my genes are worth propagating but I don't like being pressured into anything. I had an uncle ask me if I was a lesbian. If it's not my own relatives, it's the people at church. If it's not the people at church it's some random person at the DMV or the tax office who looks at my ID and sees my age and marital status and asks, "What's wrong with you? How come a nice girl like you doesn't have a hubby?"

The answer is simple. It's not that I don't want a family, it's just not my time yet. I'm not saying this just to convince myself. I'm just a little annoyed that other people are panicking on my behalf so unnecessarily. I refuse to start panicking and acting all desperate. Would it make you feel better, Auntie M, if I was out there with a taser and handcuffs trying to bag my own man?

By constantly reminding me that "the clock is ticking", these well-intentioned souls are just making matters worse. I don't think there's anything wrong with me but all these questions are putting doubts in my head, making me a little paranoid, very insecure. I know you want to help and offer advice and support but sometimes you need to have a little faith in me and my single sisters that what's supposed to happen will happen when it's supposed to happen.

Anyway, I just needed to get that off my chest.
 


posted by: Sillygrrl3 (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (10:55 am)

Well you should be!!!! You should be very worried about something over which you have NO control! AND you should start thinking it is all you and you are not worthy and then you will become a mental case and then you will be able to find a man. *grin* Just kidding! Because of experiences in our social circle lately, my roomies and I have decided that the more mentally screwed you are, the more likely you are to get a man. AGAIN - this is applicable to our SOCIAL CIRCLE - not necessarily to ALL men. - Kara



posted by: dangerkitty (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (11:00 am)

Reply to: Sillygrrl3
May be I'm too independent. If I were more needy and fragile I'd probably be engaged by now. Hmmm, that's a plan! Just kidding. I'm sure there's a bloke out there that doesn't have a "savior complex".




posted by: Sillygrrl3 (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (11:22 am)

Reply to: dangerkitty
If you find him, do you mind asking if he has a TALL brother? *grin* - Kara



posted by: Rasta (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (1:44 pm)

Good luck. :) Wait for him to come



posted by: trina (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (2:58 pm)

Nat, you made the Hot Blog list. Congrats!



posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (3:36 pm)

I totally know how you feel, Nat...Hang in there, and just do your own thing. Sooner or later, they will get off your back!



posted by: dangerkitty (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (4:55 pm)

Reply to: trina
Thanks Trina!



posted by: dangerkitty (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (4:55 pm)

Reply to: Rasta
Wait? You've got a savior complex too. Oh well.



posted by: dangerkitty (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (4:56 pm)

Reply to: Sillygrrl3
Will do!



posted by: dangerkitty (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (4:57 pm)

Reply to: rosietulips
Yeah, as soon as I hit 35 they will give up on me. Woo hoo! Thanks :)



posted by: UncPaul (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (6:02 pm)

My standard advice is better to be single than get married to the wrong guy.

I also would say that you are on the right track - don't bow to pressure.
From my observation, the "desperate ones" who are out hunting for a man - either get the wrong man or chase all the good men away!
The ones who are happy being who they are tend to be the ones the good men find attractive.



posted by: dangerkitty (reply)
post date: 12.11.03 (7:12 pm)

Reply to: UncPaul
I couldn't agree with you more. As I said, I'm in no rush. :)



posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 12.12.03 (9:58 am)

Reply to: dangerkitty
Actually...maybe after menopause you will be safe. Apparently, at some point, they give up on marriage and ask about babies!!

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